Friends and healthy criticism
We all make mistakes. Let’s get that cliche but truth out of the way.
We see the mistakes of others, in our opinion, much better than we see ours.
This is why you when you find that your friend is doing something that you feel is a mistake, you must voice your opinion. Don’t stuff your thoughts down the friend’s throat. But let them know what you think.
The ones who appreciate your opinion will bond stronger with you and they, in turn, will criticize you when you are doing something wrong, in their opinion. This is a simple way to get multiple opinions on what you are doing. A feedback mechanism.
Don’t go overboard though with only pointing the flaws in others. That’s how you will lose friends and influence no one.
If you know about human prehistory, this is one of the ways how our ancestors survived in the past. When my friend ate some berry that caused him world’s worst diarrhoea, and a few days later, I was about to eat that same berry, my good friend would prevent me from doing so, saving my life. Nowadays, the most you can do is voice your concerns for acquaintances and a bit more aggressive prevention for closer friends.
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